Hi and welcome! If you made it here it probably means you either have vulvodynia or have someone close to you who has it. And the first thing I can say to you is congratulations- you are starting a physical, mental, and spiritual rebirth! Yes, I know you want to punch me in the wings for saying that, but hear me out…
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I was diagnosed with vulvodynia in 2022 and suffered from it for about 3 years. It took me patience to heal and figure things out and I am now pain free. The things I lost and the things I gained during the process were extreme and while it was terrible at times, I am grateful now.
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It was not easy to feel grateful during the process and I am sure you or your loved one feels that way too. Based on my experiences, it is my mission to help women through their own vulvodynia journeys and pay it forward. Looking back to the start from when I was first diagnosed, I firmly believe that I would have healed much more effectively and without as many challenges if I had someone holding my hand, hearing me, and encouraging me along to say, “You are going to be okay.”
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And you will. I promise.
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Before vulvodynia, I did not know how to stand up for myself, lived with a body shaming mindset, drank too much alcohol, had re-occurring yeast infections (unbalanced pH), woke up each day with crippling anxiety, was in a highly abusive relationship, and didn’t love myself. Vulvodynia saved my life in many ways because frankly, it was the wake up call I didn't know I needed. I probably would have ended up marrying an abusive narcissistic partner and wasting an immeasurable amount of years in poor health. I definitely would not have reached my highest potential.
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And my healing journey was like a scavenger hunt. When I was diagnosed, I was not given a treatment plan or told what to expect. My ob./gyn shrugged his shoulders and scribbled a reference for a vulva specialist who had a 3 month waiting list and was on her way to retirement. So I started researching and visiting with different doctors to ask about treatment options based on my symptoms. I went to: a naturopath, chiropractors, holistic practitioners, a guru for energy clearing, Chinese as well as Korean acupuncturists, vulva specialists in New York, multiple ob/gyns for cultures and lab work, pain management, physical therapy, a dermatologist, a hypnotherapist, a therapist specializing in the mind body syndrome, a psychiatrist, a transformational guide life coach, a ketamine iv therapy center, a reiki healer, and massage therapists.

I also educated myself and read case studies, listened to podcasts, and read books on chronic pain, somatic healing, the mind body connection, ayurvedic medicine, women's health, veganism, spirituality, and psychology. 
 
For my heart and spirituality, I traveled around the world both solo and with friends and spent time at healing retreats in Thailand and Norway. I began practicing hot yoga and meditation. I learned to cherish the amazing friends in my life who were there for me even when I was at my lowest points and also learned how to establish boundaries in toxic relationships to protect my own wellness. I practiced cleanses from alcohol, social media, and meat. And slowly, I learned how to love myself, have compassion for myself, respect myself, believe in myself, and trust in the universe. 
 
Today, I am much more whole. And yes, I am pain-free and am able to do the things I used to do like go running, wear jeans, and have sex. If I could change one thing about my journey it would be about that first day when I was diagnosed. I wish my doctor had not given me my diagnoses with so little hope. I wish he had referred me to some sort of guide or support group who had also been through vulvodynia and could talk to me through the process.
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Although I refused to listen to this doctor along with many, the lack of optimism and the lack of support made me feel so alone and created a dark voice in my head that wasn’t even true. As the Vulvodynia Fairy, I am here to silence those dark voices and guide you along your healing journey because I know you will be okay. We will get through it together.
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So without further ado, I would be honored to meet you, listen to your story wherever you are in your healing journey and help fly you into your highest most beautiful self. We got this, girl!
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With love, respect, and appreciation for everything you are, I am your Vulvodynia Fairy. We are going to make some magic together. 😉
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